Today I was thinking about the idea that, in order to solve a problem you have to "own" it first. For example, many say that in order to forgive abusive parents, we have to claim the abuse.
I'm not so sure. It is possible that claiming or owning or dwelling in the anger, abuse, frustration, resentment, or other negative emotion justifies more and more self-absorption. Ernest Holmes said it it is simply not necessary to define and resolve the source of our mistaken thinking; what is necessary is to begin to think differently. So if someone has resentment toward his or her parents, it is necessary to pour in thoughts of love and forgiveness. It is not necessary to dwell on the source of the resentment.
If a person is in lack, it is, I think, a mistake to dwell on why the lack exists. Instead, it is important to develop gratitude for all the person does have and to open the mind to the possibility -- the certainty of more. Holmes also reminds us that we don't get what we say we want, we get what we think about all the time. So thinking about the problem, in the guise of "claiming" or "owning" it just perpetuates it.
Instead, think about what you want. Focus your mind's eye on the good result you are bringing into your life. Affirm that it is yours, that you deserve it, and that it is on its way right now.
Have a positive day!
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